Instructions for Completing a Suitemate/Apartment/House Agreement form
Use the following information to help you and your roommate build and maintain a good relationship. This information contains communication tips, general expectations for roommate relationships, discussion questions and a roommate contract. After discussing each topic, thoroughly complete the contract.
The key to every relationship, including the one with your roommate is communication. You need to be open, ask, listen and discuss. Don't wait until things build up inside you and get out of hand. Before it gets to that point - talk it out! Explain in a mature fashion what is bothering you and help your roommate understand why.
Share the belongings you feel comfortable sharing and clearly state what you do not want to share.
Seek assistance from your RA only when situations cannot be resolved between roommates.
Be understanding of each other's moods. Everyone has a bad day.
Listen carefully, realizing that good listening is hard work and takes practice.
Be genuine and say what is going right as well as what is going wrong.
Do not be antagonistic, arbitrary or patronizing.
Avoid using inhibiting remarks like, "What don't you listen to reason?" or "We've already tried that."
Do not interrupt. Listen carefully to the other person and do not jump to conclusions.
Avoid discussing roommate problems/conflicts with your friends and neighbors. Instead, discuss the situation with your roommate.
Your enjoyment of life in campus housing will depend, to a large extent, on the thoughtful consideration you demonstrate for your roommate and your neighbors. In addition to abiding by the rules and regulations, Mount St. Mary's expects you to establish and maintain a healthy relationship with your roommate(s).
Ask your RA for help if any issues arise between you and your roommate and he or she can help both of you work through it together.